The Weight of Loss: When Your Body Is Trying to Survive a Loss
If your weight changed after heartbreak, death, divorce, betrayal, caregiving, or a chapter of life you didn’t choose… I want to say something that may feel like a deep exhale:
Your body may not be “failing.” Your body may be grieving.
And if you’ve been trying to fix grief-weight with stricter diets, harder workouts, or more self-criticism—only to feel more stuck—there’s a reason. Grief doesn’t just affect emotions. It affects the nervous system, digestion, energy, sleep, cravings, and the body’s willingness to release.
That’s why I wrote my published eBook:
The Weight Of Loss
This is not a “try harder” book.
It’s a finally understand what’s happening book.
Why most weight-loss advice doesn’t work when grief is not recognized or overwhelming.
Most mainstream advice assumes your body is in a stable, safe rhythm.
But grief can quietly flip your internal switches into protection mode—and protection mode often looks like:
your body holding on to weight “no matter what you do”
a heavier, puffier feeling (even when food hasn’t changed much)
exhaustion that makes motivation feel impossible
cravings that show up like a wave (especially at night)
sleep that stops being restorative
Then the world says: “Be more disciplined.”
And the grieving body says: “I’m just trying to get through.”
The Weight of Loss was written for the moment you realize:
“I don’t need another plan. I need a more friendly voice inside of me that understands my body, the science in Ayurveda says we don’t treat dis-ease we treat the body type with the dis-ease.”.
Here is what this book is designed to do:
It helps you stop blaming yourself
Because when you understand how your metabolism works you can be aware of your tendencies. This increases the digestion of the grief–body connection, and emotional ease starts to return.
It gives you a new lens
One that blends Ayurvedic wisdom + real-life practicality, so you can work with your body instead of fighting it.
It gives you a path forward that doesn’t require extremes
Not punishing. Not rigid. Not “perfect.”
A path that helps your system feel safe enough to start letting go.
Inside, you’ll discover why grief can create “heaviness” patterns in the body—and how to begin shifting that pattern with tools that are gentle, doable, and surprisingly powerful.
A quick “is this me?” checklist
This book is for you if any of these hit home:
For example you were born a Kapha predominant body type it needs a skilled approach to keep the metabolism working strong.
You feel heavy, stuck, swollen, or like your body is “holding” something
You’re tired of advice that ignores your body type and people who ignore the emotions, stress, and real life of being judged or overlooked.
You suspect your nervous system is involved—but you don’t know what to do about it
You want a mind–body approach that feels human, not harsh
If you’ve been silently thinking, “My body isn’t the same after what I went through” or it’s always been like this and thats right it’s your body type according to Ayurveda… you are exactly who I wrote this for.
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A tiny preview (just enough to feel the shift)
Try this once today—no equipment, no supplements, no pressure:
The 60-second “Softening” reset
Put one hand on your chest and one on your belly.
Inhale gently through your nose.
Exhale a little longer than you inhale.
Repeat 6 slow breaths.
Silently say: “Right now, I am safe.”
This isn’t “woo.” It’s a signal.
And when your body starts receiving more safety signals, it can begin releasing what it’s been protecting.
The book shows you how to build on this—step by step—without overwhelm.
My opinion (as a clinician and educator)
If your weight changed during grief or if you carried it your whole life because you are the Ayurvedic Body Type system describes as Kapha predominant which is another way of saying “slow digestion”. I don’t think the solution is more confusion and grief.
I think the solution is a smarter kind of care:
care that supports your digestion
care that calms the stress response
care that honors the emotional reality underneath the physical symptoms
care that helps you feel like yourself again—inside your own body
The Weight of Loss is written to be that kind of care.
Ready to start feeling your way in to your “Grief Body”?
If this blog is landing in your chest like, “Yes… that’s me,” don’t overthink it.
Start here:
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Educational note: This content is for education and is not medical advice. If you have health concerns, please consult your healthcare provider.
